Girlfriends... Part 2
(Sex and the City Series)
Speaking of the truth...3)Our brains are not built for truth - they’re built for survival
(That’s pretty deep - I know. I’m not going to take the credit for it. This quote was made by a fitness author at a conference I watched on YouTube. Please forgive me for not knowing his name.)
How often have you been in a group of people and one of them starts going off about something dumb? And how many of those times has people in the group gone right along with the foolishness. No one is concerned about setting the record straight, they’re only concerned about going along with the crowd.
That’s why this statement hit me like a ton of bricks. It made me realize why I could kill a party in 2 seconds flat. I’m waaaaayyyyy too honest at the worst times. I tell the truth with no chaser. Ever since I was a little girl, I said exactly how I felt about any situation no matter who was around. I didn’t know how to grin and bare while holding in what I really wanted to say. Hence me committing social suicide.
We as females in this society have been bred to ‘go with the flow’. Just think about it. Think about the female high school cliques. In order to survive within the clique, one must not make waves or appear different than all the others. So if there is one female who ‘makes waves’ because she is a virgin when the group is known for being loose - guess who’s getting kicked out.
We were definitely not going to find a chaste female in the Sex and the City crew. But there was that time when Carrie walked in on Samantha giving ‘services’ to a delivery guy in her office (S4/E5). Samantha felt ‘judged’ when Carrie made a funny comment about it. She didn’t speak to Carrie for days. Judging from Samantha’s reaction, you know Carrie most likely didn’t call her out on her promiscuous behavior often. (This, ironically, ties into #2 about not being able to rise above the group mentality. If they don’t call you out - you can’t change.)
And last, but not least - - - > The Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
4)The ‘not-so-real’ friend.
As you guys know, I am a Sci-fi junky, and I recently went to see the Total Recall remake. I loved all the graphics and they restructured the movie. I especially loved the main character’s ‘friend’, Harry, who was put in place to keep his mind from believing anything other than what he was supposed to believe. Harry was real slick with it too. If Quaid, the main character, ever inquired about wanting a better life, Harry would say something like, “Everyone wants to do something different, but we have to pay our bills.” “You are lucky because you have a beautiful woman, why don’t you go home and make love to her.” Harry always had something to keep Quaid’s mind from going hirer.
Believe it or not, we all have or had, a ‘friend’ in our life like this. Whenever we want to think about doing something great with our lives, the ‘friend’ is always there making comments that quietly undermine what you say. They always find the most eloquent way to say, ‘you can’t do it’. Sometimes these people can even be family members. They plant negative thoughts in your head because they are unhappy.
It reminds me of the joke Katt Williams says about the people who look like they’re about to catch a stomach virus when they look at you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qB5K8dEsNF8
These are the ones you have to learn to love from a distance and take everything they say with a grain of salt. Surrounding ourselves with people who truly care about you is similar to training your mind how to think - positive thoughts only!
We have got to do our best to seek out the negativities within our circles and get rid of them. Yes, we do need someone to tell us we look fat and that dress. Yes, we do need someone to tell us that we need to leave that man - FOR GOOD! Yes, we do need the one that’s going to tell us that our stuff stinks. Yes, we do need the one that’s going to tell us that we are dead wrong for whatever! The GREAT friends are the ones that know how to tell us, and make sure we know that they still love us even if we’re mad at them for doing so.
I don’t know about you, but that’s the type of friend I need.
Ya’ll have a wonderful week, and come check me out at twitter.com/fabulusmsdallas
Toodles!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZVJBhDoGapM
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